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The ‘charging’ is when the coffin, with the person who has died inside, is put into the cremator. While this won’t be right for everyone, some people find that witnessing the charging can be a powerful part of saying goodbye. At some crematoria, you can witness the charging if you book a special slot ahead of time.

HOW ARE ASHES COLLECTED?
Once the cremation is finished, it takes about an hour for the ashes to cool down enough for a technician to collect. There is usually bone left behind which goes into the cremulator — a kind of specialised machine to turn bone into ash.

At this point, the ashes are gathered for family and friends to pick up. If you’d rather not collect ashes, they can be scattered at the crematorium instead, usually in a garden or other area set aside specifically for this. Read more about your options for keeping or scattering ashes.

DOES CREMATION HAPPEN RIGHT AFTER THE CEREMONY?
A person might be cremated right after the ceremony but it depends on how busy the crematorium is. The reason why cremation doesn’t always happen immediately is to make it better for the environment.

It takes some time for the cremator to get hot enough, which means it isn’t very energy efficient to only have one cremation per day. Technicians will usually organise cremations so they happen one after the other and the heat isn’t wasted. It would be very unusual for them to wait for more than three days — and most cremations will happen sooner than that.

Some families and friends feel it’s important to have someone cremated immediately for personal or religious reasons. If that’s the case, a funeral director can help you make the right booking with the crematorium. If you ask to witness the charging of the coffin, it will always take place right after the ceremony.

DO THEY REUSE THE COFFIN?
One common myth is that people are taken out of their coffin before cremation so it can be reused. But someone’s coffin will absolutely not be taken away from them.

The person who has died will stay inside their coffin as they go into the cremator, along with anything else that’s been included — like photos, flowers, and letters.

COULD I BE CREMATED WITH SOMEONE ELSE?
Another really common myth is that multiple people are cremated at once. As a result, family and friends sometimes worry that the ashes they get back might come from more than one person. It’s an understandable concern to have, but this is absolutely not the case.

The Code of Cremation Practice says the person who has died must be cremated on their own. All the ashes are collected before the cremator is used again and so will definitely belong to your person and nobody else.

Watch this short ‘Ask A Funeral Director’ video which explains how you can be sure you are collecting the right ashes

WHAT ITEMS CAN’T GO INSIDE A CREMATOR?
Not just anything can go inside a cremator. There’s no single list of items that can’t be included but it’s a good idea to remove anything with liquid that might explode and damage the cremator. Heavy plastics, glass, and anything with batteries (like watches) should be left out too.

Our lovely local cremator technician told us that bottles of alcohol and perfume are items which should definitely not be put in a coffin.

Your funeral director can talk you through what may or may not be a good idea to include. They can also help find ways to help involve special items in the funeral ceremony even if they can’t go inside the coffin.

WHAT HAPPENS TO JOINT REPLACEMENTS?
The crematory technician will go through the ashes and remove any metals before they go in the cremulator. These metals are normally things like hip and knee replacements, as well as bits of wire from the coffin.

Right now, all of the UK’s crematoria metal waste gets recycled by a single company in the Netherlands. You can also ask for the joints back if you’d like to.

IS CREMATION BAD FOR THE ENVIRONMENT?
Unfortunately, cremation isn’t great for the environment, because it uses a lot of energy and can release chemicals into the air. The good news is that crematory technology has moved ahead by leaps and bounds over the past decade.

There are new rules about reducing emissions, and the technology is better at filtering out chemicals like mercury so they don’t end up in the atmosphere. There are also lots of other ways you can help make your funeral more eco-friendly if this is important to you.

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open a can without a can opener

You never know when you need to open a can without a can opener

Sure, the moments we actually might have to survive in the wild are sparse. Very sparse. However, you could be camping or the stores are closed and the only thing you have in your cupboard are cans, and your can opener just broke. You never know!

And when that happens, we’ve got you covered with this trick on how to open a can without a can opener. Go to the next page to see this fascinating life hack

Time of need

It’s like the trick that teaches you how to open a bottle of wine without a corkscrew: how big is the chance you might actually need it? But when you do, it’s mighty handy to know how to do it. And while opening a bottle of wine is never exactly a basic need, even though some nights it seems like it is, opening a can of food might save your life some day. Or at least it will save you from being hangry.

Lifehack

Luckily, the YouTuber ‘The Crazy Russian Hacker’ has made a very instructive video in which he clearly explains how to open a can without a can opener. How to do it? You’ll need a rough but flat surface like concrete or a sidewalk. Turn the can upside down and rub it across the surface quickly. Then turn it around and press the can from both sides. If you did it correctly, the lid will pop right off. If not, try rubbing it again. You never know when you need this trick to save your (or your cat’s) life.

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What does trust consist of? The expert suggests defining trust as the sum of security, predictability and reliability. “That is, we can trust another person when we feel safe (we do not feel a threat emanating from him), we see and understand the prospects for the development of events, we can predict the behavior of this person, and we are confident that events will develop exactly this way, in a reliable and understandable manner.
The famous psychologist Erik Erikson believed that a child’s sense of trust is formed through the experiences of the first year of life. Gradually it turns into an attitude that determines not only the child’s attitude towards himself, but also towards the world. How developed this feeling will be in the baby depends on the degree of care of the mother, on how the internal connection between them is carried out.
How to regain your ability to trust?

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Accept the fact that you must exercise
If you spend most of your time sitting and want to lose weight or stay fit, exercise is a must for you. No diet or surgical procedure can replace physical activity. You don’t have to go to a fitness club, just do simple exercises at home or just move more.
Find meaning in training
For many people, exercise is a means to an end. Most often, this is a way to lose weight or get an ideal body. Try to change your attitude towards exercise, because physical exercise is a great way to relieve stress and get a charge of positive energy, and not just a tool for creating an attractive body.

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1. Be honest with yourself about why you are comfortable remaining unsure of yourself. Recognizing your secondary benefit can be difficult and painful, so you may need the help of a psychologist.
2. Imagine – now you have become fearless, confident, even arrogant! What will change in your life, what will you get by becoming the best version of yourself?
3. Pay attention to the reactions of your body – in what situations do you tighten, experience nervous and muscle tension? Record your observations in a journal.
4. Observe why you allow people to take advantage of you? What do you want in return: their love, respect, gratitude? Or are you afraid of being rejected and alone?

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1. Don’t fight your feelings. Breakups are often accompanied by a wide range of strong and negative feelings, including sadness, anger, confusion, resentment, jealousy, fear and regret, to name a few. If you try to ignore or suppress these feelings, you will likely only prolong the normal grieving process and sometimes get stuck in it completely.
2. Discuss your feelings openly. Talking about your feelings surrounding the breakup is an equally powerful tool for managing them. By connecting with supportive friends and family members, we can come to some new understanding and alleviate some of our pain.
3. Write down your thoughts and feelings. In addition to communicating with other people, it can be very helpful to write down your thoughts and feelings related to the breakup. People are not always available when you need to express your feelings, and some feelings or thoughts may be too personal to feel comfortable sharing with others.
4. Understand that breakups are often an inevitable part of life. Remember that many of our dating relationships will end in breakup. That’s the very nature of dating. Until we find our best match, we will be in and out of relationships, so expect that. This way we won’t feel so devastated when it happens.

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Stress is a feeling of being overwhelmed and unable to cope with psychological and emotional pressure. Most often, stress begins when we realize that we cannot control the situation. There are so many tasks, thoughts, emotions that the nervous system and body cannot cope. A simple example: a person moves to a new job. There are strangers around, a lot of information and an impressive to-do list. And if it is difficult to adapt to such changes, stress arises.

How easily a person can cope with it depends on genetics, health, lifestyle, economic and social factors. According to research, people who lack money are more susceptible to stress. And those who practice meditation get rid of anxiety more easily. Support from loved ones, sports and travel help cope with anxiety.

Distress is a negative type of stress. It happens when a person cannot adapt to a particular life situation. As a result, the hormone cortisol is produced, which affects the functioning of all body systems and can lead, for example, to weakness, insomnia, problems with the gastrointestinal tract and heart.

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