Accept your fear. Let it be a regulator of the degree of your trust in people, the world, and yourself. Try to remember what exactly the negative experience of mistrust is associated with, what specific events and situations contributed to this. Return mentally to them, “replay” them differently, or “let them go.” Realize that you yourself are capable of making a choice, and then begin to trust. Write down point by point the stereotypes and attitudes that arise in you regarding issues of trust. Try to find refutations of them, to see their groundlessness. Make a list of positive examples where people did not violate your trust. Record such examples every day, keep a piggy bank of such examples. And you will see that there are more of them. When resolving issues that arise, consciously proceed from the “presumption of innocence” and initially assume the fact that your partner is absolutely honest with you. Test the possibility of trust through your feelings of safety, predictability, and reliability. Learn to trust: try to gradually let go of fear, trusting in small things. “Love and trust always go hand in hand. One cannot exist without the other. And it doesn’t matter what kind of trust we are talking about now – in people in general, in a loved one, in a child, in God or in oneself. In essence, all this has one base.
And if we proceed from the fact that the world around us is one, and we are all its components, then it turns out that without trust in ourselves we cannot trust either people or the Universe. And by not trusting anyone, we will only drive ourselves into a blind corner from which there is no way out. It is this state of the human psyche that is called hopelessness or a twilight state,” the expert concluded.
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